Here’s the truth about me, about Tristan Ahumada. As a real estate agent, I work a lot, but I always do my best to balance my work and my family life. Balancing my life has always been a struggle, always scheduling and sticking to what is important in my life has been a challenge. Before I continue I need you take a moment and throw out your thoughts on what “Balance” means. I can hear some of you thinking already and I hear you telling me that “Balance” is a myth or that “Balance” is not achievable. Well, it’s achievable just keep reading.
I’ve been reading some books lately about focus, passion and hard work. All of them tell the same thing and that’s that balance is not real. If you want to achieve something you go all in and there is no balance. Well, I say that’s a bunch of sheep shit.
The problem with the word balance is that it’s been used incorrectly when it comes to people’s lives. People assume that balance means living your life by applying equal time and energy to each part of your life that’s important. That’s not the case. If you think that’s what the word balance means in your life, please throw that meaning out NOW!
Balance, for the purpose of living your life, means this. Balance is changing, almost like a living thing. As you grow it grows with you, as you change it changes with you. Balance doesn’t look the same every day, because your life is different every day and as you fluctuate it flows with you. Yes, we have a schedule and NO, we don’t follow it to a “T” every day because life happens all around us and we change our days as new priorities show up.
I’ll give you one example. There are some days I work from the office and some days I work from home, some days I play with my kids for 30 minutes and other days I play with them for 3 hours. The point is that I play with them and I don’t feel guilty for playing less with them or more with them on certain days. There are some days I prospect for 6 hours and others that I only fit in 2 hours. Some days I show properties to clients and other days I don’t show any homes.
Each person’s life is balanced differently. Most of us work and allocate time to ourselves, our work, and/or to our family. Some people just focus on ONE thing for years and that’s fine. Many entrepreneurs have a great balance in their lives, they know what’s important to them and they don’t let anything else get in the way. In the same way, a successful sports figure practices daily and keeps their body super healthy, their balance is different than an entrepreneur. The question you should be asking yourself is “how can I live a balanced life and what does a balanced life look like for me?”
For me a balanced life includes a few things:
- Having God in my daily life, whether it’s through prayer, reading or discourse with someone else about religion.
- Keeping my body healthy by working out and eating healthy foods.
- Investing time with my family (Daily, Weekly, Monthly etc…)
- Learning – Allocating time to learn is important for growth
- My morning routine
- Working in Real Estate and in Lab Coat Agents
Not everyone will have the same list to live a balanced life. Lab Coat Agents did an interview with Gary V a few months back and we asked him about balance, he says he is there for his family on the weekends and that during the week it’s all work. If it’s working for his life and his family then it’s called balance. I just want you to understand that a balanced life is different for everyone and just because you focus on one thing for a long period of time vs another does not mean there is no balance. This is very similar to multitasking because you can’t really focus 100% on playing with your children and working at the same time. It’s not possible!
You have 100% to work with and if you start splitting that percentage up its starts to show in your results. You have to set time for each thing that is important to you and do one thing at a time. Focus on one thing at a time so that you can achieve the balance you want in your life.
When my kids were smaller I felt guilty for not spending time with them as much every day. I wanted every day to look the same on my schedule. I wanted to apply 2 hours for playtime, 8 hours of work, 1 hour for working out, 30 minutes for learning and 30 minutes to connecting with God.
I strive to live a life that includes the things that are important to me, that are important to Tristan Ahumada and his family. I don’t always include everything on my list for “My Balanced Life”, but I am getting closer every day. I understand now that some days I may be working all day and have very little time for my family, yet other days I will have the whole day with my family. The secret has been to use a schedule and plan ahead. If you plan ahead and use a schedule religiously it will help you live a more balanced life. You will allocate time where you think it’s needed and you will feel fulfilled more often than not.
The best example I have seen of this is with body builders. They plan ahead, the schedule their meals, they schedule their workouts by the hour, by the day, by the reps. They measure the amount of food they eat, they measure the time they spend working out on each muscle and they take notes to see how much they have grown and what they have achieved. If we can take a page from body builders it’s this. Plan out your day, plan out how it will look at work, at home, on your own. Plan out as much as you can and if you have to change it it’s ok, that’s why humans invented an eraser.
Living a balanced life requires planning. There are some things in your life that will require more energy than others. If you don’t plan ahead you will be doing a disservice to yourself and to the people around you. When I think about showing homes vs writing a contract in real estate, I know that showing homes to a client requires a lot more energy than writing a contract (at least for me it does). In the same way when I know that if I expect to play with my children at the end of the day I have to plan on having enough energy then, so I have to plan accordingly. The last thing I want to do is come home tired and not have enough energy to be with my family if this is part of my balanced life.
“I’ve gotten very good at scheduling my life, scheduling the scene and preparing myself for knowing, saving the energy, consuming the energy, knowing when to go for it and having the available reserves to be able to do that. You have to think about that, because it’s endurance.” Author: Tom Cruise
Wiki has this to say about Work-Life Balance: “Work–life balance is a concept including proper prioritizing between “work” (career and ambition) and “lifestyle” (health, pleasure, leisure, family and spiritual development/meditation).”
“Proper prioritization” is the key to balance and when I read that I think of the list of 6 main things that balance my life (See Above). What I need you to do is to THINK what is on your list, what do you need on your list to have a balanced life and how does that balanced life look in your ideal world? Does your balanced life have time for family, for an intense workout, for prospecting, for walks in the park, for traveling, for writing, intimate time with your significant other, for learning new things, etc… Your balanced life is up to you. It does exist and it’s important to outline how that looks.
Once you come up with your balanced life you can then outline your schedule and plan out your days according to your balanced life. For Tristan Ahumada, that’s me (I’m just using my name here for SEO purposes), my days are different throughout the week. I alternate what I do daily according to the day of the week. Some days I call expireds, some days I work on my Facebook lead ads, some days I work more on Lab Coat Agents and other days I spend most of the day with my family. The key for me has been to plan ahead and spend the time I have allotted to the lifestyle I have decided to live. So if you are working 12 hour days and that fits your balanced life, don’t worry about what other people have to say about you (I recently saw a friend’s post on Facebook about working until 9pm and I thought that was awesome – George Oberdorster). If you spend most of your days with your family taking care of your kids and only work part time, but this fits your balanced life then more power to you. If you are not happy with your current state of a balanced life then take a step back and analyze what you are missing from your life. You need to prioritize what’s important in your life. The best thing to do is to focus on the “health, pleasure, leisure, family and spiritual development/meditation” and start from there.
I use a simple journal called the Best Self Journal and I plan a week ahead so I can see the important things in my calendar, I know that Wayne Salmans uses it too (He is a great coach by the way). I also have a wall calendar that I plan a year ahead on and write down trips and speaking engagement on. Now go get started and figure out what you want your life to look like, Go Make Your Balanced Life! – Tristan Ahumada